What many people don't realize is that when you lose a baby, you have a whole other set of milestones to get through in addition to those firsts. And the earlier you lose a baby, the more milestones you have in front of you.
- The day you would have announced your pregnancy to the world
- The day you would have heard your baby's heartbeat
- The first ultrasound
- The end of the first trimester, and the second
- Feeling your baby move for the first time
- Shopping for baby supplies
- Registering for baby gifts
- Attending your own shower
- Getting a tour of the hospital
- your estimated due date
- your first Mother's Day or Father's Day
- your anniversary of loss
- anticipating what your baby would be doing now if he or she had lived
- what would have been your baby's first Christmas, first Thanksgiving, first birthday...
Question for you: When did you feel yourself moving past the worst of your grief? What helped?
1 comment:
Good question. I feel like I moved through the worst of my grief after 3 or 4 months after each loss. I still have days where the pain feels new, but for the most part I believe I'm through the worst of it. What helps is time, choosing to find joy in unlikely places, fixing my eyes on Jesus and the blessings He has for me everyday, remembering my babies are safe with Him.
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